- Are you afraid of being a fraud?
- Not meeting a deadline?
- Falling short of some expectation?
Take a moment to really wallow in that thought. See where you feel it in your body. For me most stress hits me in the stomach and the shoulders. As my stomach grinds my shoulders inch up toward my ears. Then a dull pain starts on the left side of my neck and head.
Doesn’t this feel fabulous?
Now think about the future in a more positive way.
- You are not a fraud.
- You’ve met the deadline.
- You’re the most beloved employee at your company.
While you may find these thoughts silly, go there anyway.
How does your body feel? (And stop giggling. Really! You are the BESTEST employee this company has ever seen. Relish that thought for a few moments.)
Why don’t we look at the future with a positive slant?
Herein lies the problem with us humans. We give more credence to the negative thoughts than the positive ones. This is part of how we’re wired and how our species has survived for centuries. But we have control over these thoughts, and we’re often doing ourselves a big disservice by slanting to the negative.
Things are just as likely, if not more so, to work out well than to turn out bad.
Does that negative thinking serve you in any way?
In most cases it probably doesn’t.
So let’s make a deal
Catch yourself in a negative thought and call yourself on it. It will take a little time to get good at this. But it will make a HUGE difference in how you think. By knowing you are caught up in thoughts that contribute to your stress, you can begin to work on changing them.
Next, I’m going to figure out how to add BESTEST to my spellchecker.